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a shocking and revealing fact has finally hit home in my thick hard skull…

1.Infidelity-not that common and

2. Worse still- people accept it!

I have always been brought up to believe that marriages are forever and that if after trying everything it doesn’t work…you divorce and go your separate ways…! Affairs and mistresses were things that rich businessmen in the west succumbed to….or bollywood sometimes! it’s not. It’s way more common than you think! During a conversation with a friend last week , I was told that when she was getting married, eons ago …advice given to her by an older ‘aunty’ was to that affair happen…she should ‘grow up and face the facts!’ recently a newspaper published a ’study’ that cheating spouses ‘lived longer!!!??!!!!’ WHAT!??? what rubbish and what kind of a society have we become to think that something as horrible as breaking the trust of marriage is ‘okay!’ and that we should be grown ups about this!

another friend argued and said but how do we know where our husbands go when on long trips…i mean men were men eventually! that is NOT AN EXCUSE! men must be men….we wouldn’t want them any way else…but men can also be loyal men and faithful men and our knights in shining armor! that’s the type of man i chose as my husband and fidelity is something we both expect….it is not negotiable…it’s not a warranty based relationship! we took an oath to be with each other thru thick and thin like my parents did and there’s did and generations before that and we plan to work our troubles out and not run into the open arms of  any floozie by night that seems like a viable option ‘at the time!’

i always thought that it was the sleazy director who i saw put his sweat filled palm on an actress’ thigh that might be a cheater but to think that people i knew thought it might be ok…was shocking, disastrous and unacceptable.

this is our rule…if you cheat…you are out! same rule for the both of us….and truth be told…I LOVE RULES!

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