some prayers worked…some prayers didn’t….and i need everyone’s prayers now–most of all….people that had promised help, fell thru and i was distraught. always a straight talker…i have never been the type to promise what i will not deliver…..but in any adversity there are lessons for you to learn!
so i went back on the phone and set up 4 more meetings….wrote more letters, talked to more people and am going out to celebrate with coffee!
celebrate what? well– if we can celebrate our wins then why not our losses…cos it’s only in the losses that you eventually by the process of elimination find your true path! and if i preach so much…then i had better practice what i preach else how dare i be the preacher….so after feeling sad for all of 5 minutes , i started over and rebuilt my day!
i will achieve cos i will it so.
but pls don’t stop the prayers 
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thank you for the worry and wishes on my back!
i can fight multiple sclerosis but a back ache gets me bed-ridden…the irony of life
either way…the one day of bed rest (sunday) got me super charged for the week and i’m storming ahead full speed tho still bound to chairs/ the bed else people on the road might worry that the actual hunch back of notredame has come avisiting!
so i need prayers…..hoping that 2/3 things pan out and i have worked towards them so i need your help…prayers are in order…cos u can only propose and allow God to dispose and well with volcanic ash, match rigging and a million other controversies…God has his plate a bit over full! However my belief is that each prayer is answered…..so please pray for me and one day I know i’ll do more than the same for you!
thought for the day-: take a step back and re look for a solution when you are stuck…sometimes that small step back allows you to see another pathway to the same goal!
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so over work has been driving me ’round the bend and the gym sessions, meetings and running ’round has got me going a bit ditzy….my back had been aching and i was getting worried (having had a prior history of a bad back) that my disc might move again…so been complaining about my exhaustion with a lot of pride—i love the fact that i overwork and telling everyone i knew that my back was becoming weak and i was worried! and then saturday happened and i fell in a wet bathroom and my already weak back, decided to give way! the universe had listened as well as the back-Gods and they decided that rest was now to be made compulsory….
i can’t complain about the gym no more or the extra meeting which i walk in to sideways or am wheeled into on a wheel chair. on bed rest and i now realise that all the worries and tensions we decide to share with the universe–it might actually take seriously. it may not get, that we enjoy the extra workload or the 15 meetings and evening coffee sessions….all it heard is ‘desperate need of rest!!!’ so now i’m gonna watch what i say….or better still not complain at all…waiting to be back on my feet and dancin!
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so i thought i wouldn’t be able to post today….super rushed day and now entertaining friends in another 10 minutes or so!!!! so i’m done and relaxing….well almost…so much stress is given to planning a party…you gotta do it just right…you gotta find the right mix, have the right conversations, everyone must be interested in each other…but not too much!and despite all the whining –in the middle of the party…i’ll be planning another one
anyway this week has been about gyan…so here’s some stuff ur mom never told you….that you’ll learn with time…
- it’s easy messing ur parents house up…but u want ur house neat!
- that food doesn’t magically arrive to the table and clothes don’t get magically washed!
- that calling them every day is important….they still worry
- that you’ll always be their baby!
- that they don’t find your photographs when you were 5 years old silly!
- that it means alot when u treat them to a meal!
- that asking u for a favour….is just to check up on u sometimes!
- that they are secretly proud of you and gossip to their friends about you!
- that they learn from you too!
- that they have fears still too…they just mask them wonderfully
pick up the phone and say ‘hi ma!’ and see you monday
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note to readers…life lessons are not always about me…they are about people and things that teach me, inspire me and make me think…
to all those who worried—my rants about husbands are not about mine…;-) aditya gets his yells at home…to yell at him on a blog would be kinda pointless when i could just scream!!!! anyone who knows me…knows that this is true!
so here goes…
it’s easier to say ‘live in the moment’ than to actually do that!
most people and give you endless amount of advice (as can i) but to check whether each one follows their own advice …well that’s a toughie!
fight! it helps communication!
the best friends i know fight…the best marriages i have seen have tons of fights…fights help you learn the other persons wants and desires without subduing your own!
live a little….laugh alot!
so….sometimes you need to cheat and have that last piece of chocolate….or watch tv instead of working….stop letting the guilt over power you….you must learn to live and enjoy life…it mustn’t be a chore… laugh…even if you don’t find it funny and everything’s going all wrong…go watch a comedy and laugh! never take urself too seriously…. and never lose ur sense of humour. life’s too tough without a sense of humour!
you are never as fat as you think you are…you never look as bad as you think you do….and someone out there will always find u perfect just the way you are!
women put on weight when looking at themselves in front of a mirror…men worry about premature baldness or greys… we’re never as bad looking as we think we are and if we see ourselves from another’s eyes…how much nicer we may look? so stop worrying! ur perfect!
life is a journey. there are good days and bad days. there are heroes and villains in our lives…but when viewed together by us…we’re living a dream, a film, a movie and guess what- WE’RE THE STAR! so own your life! make it urs and enjoy it…even the singing and dancin in the rain!
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relationships are a tricky thing….most of us find our soulmate quite by chance…and alot of us find our soulmate in an office/ field we are working in!
in the beginning it’s amazing…shared interests, passions, easy office gossip and longer lunch breaks….
but what if! what if it doesn’t work out?
what if she/ he screws up…do you yell at them, fire them like u would anyone else? do you say no, to a bad idea they give you…or does ur relationship and work life become one and the same and ur forced to say ‘yes’ to the bad ideas, cover unfinished work just so that he/ she doesn’t get into an issue….and in between handling all these many crises and ur work…the one thing which will fall apart is ur relationship already weakened by the inability to tell ur co-worker, now ur partner what u feel…the conversations will become shorter, the resentments will build up and the need for ’space’ will creep in!
how do u avoid it?
business is business and love is love. 2 different things for 2 different times….just as u don’t crap where u eat…respect ur relationship enough to know that ur partner shouldn’t have to cover up for you nor u for him….the foundation of every great relationship is a fabulous friendship and u must be able to at all times…say ‘no, this idea sucks…’ to your partner when it does. work with them as u would with any other professional…because of the value they bring to the project and not just because….if u can’t say no to your partner ….they are not in the relationship for the right reasons….
people who don’t know me or haven’t met me…never realise that aditya and i are married if we’re at work or at a rehearsal….there if i’m director-neither lateness, or bad lines or bad acting is forgiven….i am director and NOT the wife!
if he’s producer on a project that i’m working on…i stand in line like everyone else to get approvals on budgets and ideas and scripts…it doesn’t get pushed thru because of our relationship and i respect that.
u can work with ur partner but u gotta respect them! u gotta learn to say no!
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this week will be a series of life lessons that have helped me and others around me happier (and i believe achieve more)
so on vishu i met a wonderful gentleman who i had never met before but shared such a similar philosophy it was uncanny….the ceo of a bank ,we immediately hit it off because we seemed to have a similar life view…it was fascinating….it helped change his life and i have always believed that it’s changes mine and several people that i know closely…so i decided to share.
- now first think of what you want. silently ask for it.
- now believe you have it. take a quiet moment and visualise it…see it…feel it…taste it!
- now enjoy having your wish come true….
- now thank the Gods for it….be grateful and enjoy the fact that just by asking we can receive and pass on the message
this may seem far too simplistic for you…but it works….
have you noticed that some people are always lucky at cards? they keep saying it…over and over again…they believe it and so does the Universe….
some people are always late….but the first thing they say before stepping out for a meeting..is -’ damn! i’m sure i’m going to be late!’— and so they are!
troubleshooting-if you find it difficult to visualise as some people dod create a visualisation board! now this is an actual piece of chart paper where you put all the things you really want on it…a great day where you can cut up magazine, scour the internet and become a kid again by putting all the goodies you want in your life on to one huge piece of chart paper…
if cutting paper and gluing is not your type of fun…open a word document or ppt and search on the internet for all the things you want and place it in a nice happy collage on your paper and then save as desktop image!
seeing is believing and if you don’t have a dream you have nothing left to achieve…so enjoy ur dreams and watch God and the universe make them come true!!!
a great monday activity -to start the week with a smile! happy monday!
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so lots of great feedback  after yesterday’s blog….people all across acknowledged that they didn’t know how to really stand up for themselves…they just rolled over and felt hurt
so today let’s change that!
name 3 things u are proud u of that you have done..i’ll go first (in no particular order)
- survived adem( and attack of multiple sclerosis and complete left side paralysis) and got back on my feet
- started my own company- Balancing Act Productions
- topped icse
name 3 things that u have done that make u smile
- traveled  alot!
- jumped off a plane
- scuba dived with a shark!
name 3 qualities that u love in urself
- determination
- perseverance
- loyalty
name 3 situations u learnt from and came out as a winner
- set the cops on an abusive stalker
- said no every single time to the casting couch
- learnt that when at the start of my acting career i got left side paralysed …that there was a whole new world that i could explore and be able to fulfil my passion for theatre and film by producing and directing it!
i’d love to see your lists….but even if ur not up to sharing…once u finish the list-pat urself on the back ( actually no–that’s almost impossible..unless u have springy arms…so get someone else to that for you!
AND BE
PROUD OF
YOURSELF!
Go give yourself a great weekend…u’ve already done so much. u deserve it! see u monday…
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you don’t know anything about me…and i don’t know anything about u…and yet ur words hurt and i get mad! but i’m mad at me….because u are ignorant but with ur ignorance u have the power to pull me down and that’s not fair. why do we always bother about what other people think of us? shouldn’t it be enough if we think we are ‘okay’….but no it’s never enough…why don’t they like us? what should we have done to make them happy? do they think i look good/happy/successful/overweight/underweight!
who cares!
we do.
now the start of being able to let that go is to go back to that person and to tell them that their opinion doesn’t matter….that their opinion hurts …..or that they are just wrong! now, that may not take the opinion back…but it will allow the ability to stand up for YOU! most of us can stand for others. we defend our friends, our passions, our boyfriends or girl friends…but we don’t stand up for ourselves! we don’t think we are worth it! well you are! believe it! you are as entitled to stand up for yourself as anyone else is. do not wait for your spouse,best friend or parent to stand up for yourself when you think someones in the wrong….go up and tell them!
BE PROUD OF YOU!
today’s is my new year…so happy vishu to all the malayalees out there! and with every new year we always look happier and love the idea of a new beginning…let’s not wait for an entire year to enjoy a new day! let’s look at each day as a fresh start and a new beginning so happy vishu today and happy friday-tomorrow!!!!
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so we all find it so easy to complain…we whine. we complain about our foul luck! he got the contract…people don’t listen….people don’t understand…i’m never going to get that job, they want someone else…my boss is always in a bad mood etc! Â BUT when we get the little miracles–the call we didn’t expect, the contract that landed on our doorstep with barely any work, the client who just said yes , the boss who gave us a raise or a promotion just because….we don’t acknowledge it….we were due it, we say. we expected it,we say. about time, we say! what about a little gratitude people!!!!!
this comes to me after a month of negotiations on a new show! i’m exhausted, snappy and frustrated thru most days….i love the creation process of a show…HATE the marketing! and tho i still haven’t found the right fit sponsors and tho i’m still in a state of working madly thru the day and collapsing a in a heap of tears at night….sometimes people call out of the blue…just to say–that they get it and they believe in you…I’ve had a call like that this week where someone offered help…to help me market this show…just because they believe in it and in me! and even if nothing comes out of it…it was just a really sweet, kind, thoughtful gesture….
in the midst of all the whining and complaining…it was like God trying to say ‘keep at it…I believe in u…’
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